Adoption....From the eyes of a child
When adopting a child, there is always so much excitement, happiness and energy that surround the process. Dreams come true, people become parents, and children gain a stable and loving family. What is often overlooked is the child's perspective. We have to go into adoption knowing that we need to focus primarily on the child's perspective. Of course, being adopted is a big change in the child's life. He will hopefully receive lots of love, new extended family members for support, and a sense of security and stability through the adoption. But, we need to understand that there is no happy way to get to the point of adoption. Every child's adoption has a back-story, and that back-story includes loss and grief. The reasons that the child was available for adoption will be complex and the child may struggle with feelings of abandonment and rejection. If the child is originally from a different country, there is the extra layer of loss of his larger cultu...